I know, I posted that blog about the 5 phrases quite a few weeks ago and I'm just now getting back to it.... But, I am getting back to it, that counts for follow through!
The second phrase is this, "I'm loved, not pitied" and actually I wrote about this once here and another time I wrote a list of the ways I've seen this practically in my daily life.
This time though.... I find myself wrestling with it. I feel like I'm the rope in a tug of war game and the two teams are love and pity.
My brain is full of memories from my past that disproved love from some of the people who were meant to be the very ones to teach me what love looked like. They had their own experiences in life that showed them abandonment, rejection, exploitation instead of love. So, it really is only fair for me to say here that they taught me what they knew.
My heart is becoming stronger and stronger each day as it grows roots in God's love. As my heart grows stronger it pulls harder in that important tug of war match. I read His words over and over and over again... "I have loved you with an everlasting love..." (Jer. 31:3), "If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in Heaven give good gifts to those who ask Him!" (Matt. 7:11), "This, then, is how you should pray: Our Father in Heaven..." (Matt. 6:9), "For those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God" (Rom. 8:14)
Those are all such good, powerful promises and declarations, aren't they???
I think they are. I... think..... they...... are.....? This is where the battle happens for me. These verses are not about love in general. They are about a Father loving His child.
These verses (and many others like them) stand right in the face of the lie that says people pity me because I wasn't loved in the way a daughter should be loved.... the lie that says I stand exposed and vulnerable so everyone can see the lack and they pity me.... the lie that says because I was rejected by my father and my stepfather I can't possibly be worth loving... satan tried real hard for many years to show me through all kinds of actions that I'm not worth loving, I'll only be pitied.... I believed him for a very long time....
But, the Truth.....the Truth is taking root! I've called the lies what they are, I've read God's word for myself, I've heard His word declared over me by ones who do love me, I've seen Jesus show me His love through His death on a cross when He deserved Life....
And, God is providing opportunity after opportunity after opportunity for me to choose to believe His love for me through very real circumstances and people in my life. And, that makes sense to me. If satan can deceive people into causing others to believe they are broken, worthless, pitied, unlovable.... then of course God's glory can shine through His people when they show others that they are whole, valuable, important, cared for, loved....
So, yep... It's a constant phrase these days... I'm loved, not pitied. The more I say it, the more I believe it, the stronger the Truth pulls.
The second phrase is this, "I'm loved, not pitied" and actually I wrote about this once here and another time I wrote a list of the ways I've seen this practically in my daily life.
This time though.... I find myself wrestling with it. I feel like I'm the rope in a tug of war game and the two teams are love and pity.
My brain is full of memories from my past that disproved love from some of the people who were meant to be the very ones to teach me what love looked like. They had their own experiences in life that showed them abandonment, rejection, exploitation instead of love. So, it really is only fair for me to say here that they taught me what they knew.
My heart is becoming stronger and stronger each day as it grows roots in God's love. As my heart grows stronger it pulls harder in that important tug of war match. I read His words over and over and over again... "I have loved you with an everlasting love..." (Jer. 31:3), "If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in Heaven give good gifts to those who ask Him!" (Matt. 7:11), "This, then, is how you should pray: Our Father in Heaven..." (Matt. 6:9), "For those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God" (Rom. 8:14)
Those are all such good, powerful promises and declarations, aren't they???
I think they are. I... think..... they...... are.....? This is where the battle happens for me. These verses are not about love in general. They are about a Father loving His child.
These verses (and many others like them) stand right in the face of the lie that says people pity me because I wasn't loved in the way a daughter should be loved.... the lie that says I stand exposed and vulnerable so everyone can see the lack and they pity me.... the lie that says because I was rejected by my father and my stepfather I can't possibly be worth loving... satan tried real hard for many years to show me through all kinds of actions that I'm not worth loving, I'll only be pitied.... I believed him for a very long time....
But, the Truth.....the Truth is taking root! I've called the lies what they are, I've read God's word for myself, I've heard His word declared over me by ones who do love me, I've seen Jesus show me His love through His death on a cross when He deserved Life....
And, God is providing opportunity after opportunity after opportunity for me to choose to believe His love for me through very real circumstances and people in my life. And, that makes sense to me. If satan can deceive people into causing others to believe they are broken, worthless, pitied, unlovable.... then of course God's glory can shine through His people when they show others that they are whole, valuable, important, cared for, loved....
So, yep... It's a constant phrase these days... I'm loved, not pitied. The more I say it, the more I believe it, the stronger the Truth pulls.
I'll say it with you. You are loved, not pitied. xx
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